20 Days, 20 Quizzes, Day 5: Motivation or Pressure?
Hi Everyone! This is Day 5 of my video series, 20 Days, 20 Quizzes, where I count down the 20 reasons why my book, All About You: A Personality Quiz Book will make a great gift for your loved ones this holiday season!
The fifth quiz in this book asks how you feel about people putting pressure on you. Do you like a push from others because it motivates you? Do you not like anyone pushing you because it makes you feel bad? Or are you just unaffected by pressure, where it doesn’t motivate you, but it doesn’t make you feel worse either?
I’m definitely someone who doesn’t want pressure in my life, and when I was being pressured and spoke out about it, I was often told that pressure led to motivation and that other people didn’t have to respect my boundaries when I told them to stop pushing me. I really wanted to write this quiz to validate everyone else out there who might be in the same situation I was in, and let you know that it is okay to not want pressure in your life, and it’s okay to tell people to stop pushing you.
This quiz validates all of the choices equally. For the person who doesn’t want any pressure, I make it very clear that the pressure actually causes a problem for them. The choices don’t make it sound like that person just doesn’t want to do anything, but rather, that the pressure interferes with their interest in doing things. Some of the answer choices explicitly say that even if you would like to do something, having pressure to do it turns it into something that you don’t want to do. And for people who do like pressure, the answer choices address the importance of having structure, support, and encouragement from others rather than being left on your own.
The quiz also shows how people who like pressure and people who don’t like pressure can both thrive in different types of environments. People who see pressure as motivation may thrive more in places like school and organized activities, and people who don’t like pressure may thrive more when they have free time to do what they want. People who like motivational pressure may have more goals related to school and organized activities, and people who don’t like pressure may have more personal goals outside of school and organized activities. My college was an environment that mainly worked if you liked motivational pressure – there was a lot of external pressure to do things, and people weren’t good about respecting boundaries if you told them to stop pushing you. But when I shared that I was working on my first novel, everyone was really surprised that I could make time for something that I wasn’t getting any kind of school credit for. Different people thrive in different kinds of environments and with different kinds of goals. Both ways of being are equally valid. I would encourage you to share your results of this quiz with the people you care about, so that you’re better able to respect each other’s needs.